Barriers to Love

When I started writing 13 Decisions that will Change Your Life, I hadn't considered how many barriers there were to unconditional love.  As it turns out, there are many.  More seem to rear their heads every day.

Love is curtailed by distrust or mistrust.  We've all experienced betrayal and the bitterness it leaves.  Love is unable to live in an atmosphere of unforgiveness.  Roots of  malice burrow into our lives and take years of diligence to get rid of.

Love closely related to joy and a zest for living.  Neither is possible if a scimitar is poised over our head.  Purging grudges, putting away hard feelings, and defusing feuds unbars the road to love.  Unfortunately cleared pathways don't always stay clear, so this demolition must be a constant chore.   Don't put off your spring cleaning so love can blossom. 

All of LIfe is a Decision

From the first time you choose Cheerios(c) over toast, your life has been a series of decisions. Some are seemingly small such as what to have for breakfast or what to wear.  Others are of the more weighty variety like who do I marry or what will I do with my life.

Decisions also have consequences.  If we eat spicy food at midnight, we may pay with indigestion.  If we marry an incompatible individual then the consequences may be unhappiness or even divorce.  Unfortunately, most of us take decision making quite lightly and use the eeny-meeny-miny-moe approach.

My series of books take on 13 of our major decisions that change our lives, our marriages, our communities, and eventually our world.  How we act or react to life or how we anticipate life makes a difference in all of our relationships. 

When we display anger, unforgiveness, isolation, and guilt, it may be time for a deeper probing of what is going on in our lives.  I want to take this journey with you.  It is one I have experienced and so have many of my colleagues.